when i say it, i still mean it…

i want us all to be strong and free.
this means no cis policing of our identities
and as importantly, no trans/genderqueer-on-trans/genderqueer policing of our identities, and also no more minimizing other trans/genderqueer people for being different from you, no matter what the provided “excuse” is.

if you want to be part of our movement, you must respect that when it comes to my body means i get to make my rules and that my life is my life. no surgery policing, no sexual orientation policing, no use of shame as a compliance or exclusion tool. no unsolicited “passing tips” which are really judgments on someone’s validity. no more “some trans people are more equal than others.” easy peasy, folks: my body, my rules, my life.

if you don’t want to be part of it, keep supporting institutions that don’t include all trans people, keep making excuses for why they keep some trans people out (hint: fatphobia, racism, ableism, classism, and transmisogyny are not valid reasons), keep being the handmaiden of our own demise, and keep selling us out to cis people while deriding the choices of other trans folks. i wish you luck in continuing to appease the oppressor; do tell me how that’s working out for you given that it’s never worked in the past.


8 Responses to “when i say it, i still mean it…”

  1. Cool I put up a teaser and told people to come here and read this.

    Some people give me hope that the endless transwars will end and people will start respecting each other.

    • thanks for the signal boost, Suzan!

      i think part of this is that i come from a position where i’ve spent most of my life scared to death of other trans women, because i’ve had a few bad experiences on top of always having to pass as a condition of existing, so i kind of see where the HBS hate train comes from, but i’ve grown up a bit (had to happen *eventually*, right?) and noticed three things:

      1. even though i would be okay under the HBS “rules” if i were able-bodied* (women apparently aren’t disabled, lol), i don’t get what the purpose of such a treehouse is. i also don’t get why the occupants of said treehouse are so damn hateful and sound like…

      2. wadfems. and that’s the scary thing, y’all: wadfems and HBSers are often indistinguishable from each other in their rhetoric. that trans woman is fat? mock her for it. that trans woman doesn’t have a perfect face? comment on it. that trans woman has breasts that are too small? mock her for it even more! both groups seem obsessed with sweeping blanket statements and trying to dox trans women they dislike, which is a lot like…

      3. the patriarchy. at the end of the day, all this division does is further the ends of patriarchal interests. HBSers and wadfems alike both glorify and reify the white male definition of power. think about it: when you provide that much agency to the kyriarchical sorts, you’re giving them power, and both groups end up doing that. wadfems focus on seeing trans women under the eaves, not on feminism as we know it. at the same time, HBSers focus on who to exclude, who to hate, while not bothering to understand that trans women can come in more than one shape or size. when you’re that busy throwing people off the bus, you look a lot like a fundamentalist religion, which is what the HBSers pretty much are. at the end of the day, they’re both focusing their hate on people who don’t fit a patriarchal norm, and last i checked, that’s not what feminism was about.

      so yeah, it’s time for these wars to end. i am still isolated and scared and hopeful that someday our community will include us all, but at the same time it’s worth noting that i’ve been in the shoes of someone who, but for disability, could be HBSer-blessed, and i choose to shun that hateful, angry mindset. (ps: keep leaving hilarious troll comments, HBSdrones.)

      *=Not sure if the HBSers consider trans women of color acceptable, since they’re invariably white and half of me forgot to be white. Amazing how cis people don’t give a crap about any of these things…they’ve adopted me as one of their own and assume i’m just like them…

  2. ROFLMAO!!!

    editorial comment to this comment: this commenter is making repeated spam comments about how i’m “bigoted” against HBSers. i approved this one since it’s actually representative of their argument in their spamfest.

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